1. Keep up your cardio
Cardio exercises are incredibly effective at improving your overall health, but did you know that it could have a big effect on your, *ahem*, member too? Not only will being fitter enable you to better control your breathing during intercourse, but it will also lower your chances of ejaculating prematurely. What’s more is that cardio exercise also boosts your metabolism, thus improving blood circulation to your heart, lungs and – you guessed it – your penis.
2. Change things up
Experimenting with new positions can often help men last longer in bed. This is because your body can anticipate climax and bring on the finale when you’ve been with a partner for some time. That’s why you should try different positions and change the order of your sexual routine quite frequently. In this context, awkward and unfamiliar are actually better than what’s familiar.
3. Find your edge
If you’ve never heard of “edging”, you're about to now. It’s a technique that involves bringing yourself as close to the orgasmic point of no return as possible without actually going past it. You can practice this while masturbating, however, if you want to apply it during intercourse, you simply need to stop doing whatever’s drawing you closer to the point of no return and take a metaphorical step back for a minute. Try kissing or orally stimulating your partner, then continue intercourse when you’re feeling good to go again.
4. Do Kegel exercises
You can actually improve your control over ejaculation by performing Kegel exercises. They’re designed to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle, which can be found by stopping the flow of urine when you go to the bathroom. All you need to do to perform the exercise is to quickly clench and release your PC muscle repeatedly for 10 seconds. Do three sets, with a 10-second break between each set. Once you get into a routine with this, you’ll be able to apply it to intercourse with your partner. Try contracting your PC muscle when you’re close to orgasm, and you’ll really be able to put a lid on things (pun intended)!
5. Intercourse doesn't necessarily have to be the main focus
We tend to label all other kinds of sexual activity that don’t involve actual penetration as foreplay, and that’s quite frankly a misnomer. The truth is that kissing, massage, frottage, manual, and oral stimulation doesn’t have to go before anything. Try returning to outercourse, which is a much less misleading name for non-penetrative play, halfway through the session. You should know that 75% of women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone…
6. The refractory period is your friend
The refractory period is the length of time between when a man ejaculates and when he’s ready to go again. An 18-year-old male has a refractory period of about 15 minutes, whereas it can be up to 20 hours for men in their 70s. The average for all men is about half an hour. You can use this opportunity and turn your attention to pleasing your partner. Not only will your erection return, but your encore performance will likely last quite a bit longer than the first time around!
7. Employ the squeeze method
Dr. William Masters and his wife Virginia Johnson pioneered the squeeze method during their 33 years of diagnosing and treating sexual dysfunctions and disorders. They told women to place the thumb, index and middle fingers around the tip of their partner’s penis, and squeeze immediately before they were about to ejaculate, holding until the feeling subsided. Although the man will likely lose some, if not most of his erection, he should be able to recover quickly.
8. Put a condom on
Even when contracting a sexually-transmitted infection or having a child are no longer concerns, slipping a condom on is a great way to make intercourse last longer. This is because they reduce sensation.
9. Masturbate an hour or two before sex
Masturbating an hour or two before the main even can also make it last longer. This intercourse-lengthening technique was explored in the comedy movie, Something About Mary, although Ben Stiller’s character’s experimenting ended with comical results.
10. Take breaks
Taking breaks (if you aren’t in a rush) can help to slow down intercourse, allow you and your partner to savor the moment, and increase your mutual satisfaction. If things feel like they’re coming to a premature conclusion, then you should return to kissing, cuddling or sensation play.