Always remember that the person you are speaking to has their own views and their own reasons. Every person you speak to fights a battle you know nothing about. So always make it a point to respect other people.
2. Happiness is a result of a well-organized life.
Joy, success, and happiness are a result of a well-organized life. This concept maintains that in order to reach these sensations and state, you need to do things. On the contrary, if your goal is to reach these side effects, you most probably never will do so, since happiness and success aren't things that you just get.
A person is defined by their action, words are impalpable. You can't expect help from others, without having had made the effort yourself. For example, if you just tell people you are going to write a book, you can't expect to get help if you haven't begun the process yourself. But when you finally decide to write a book and take a copy to an editor, you will find people who are ready to support you.
4. Hard feelings disappear when you become successful.
Grudges tend to form because we are unsatisfied with ourselves. When we hold a grudge against someone, we think that the only person who can fix it is the person we are upset at. But in the words of Mikhail Litvak, 'my success outshined my grudges.' So, start by doing what you love, and work to become successful at it. At that moment, you will notice all your grudges disappear.
Most people tend to fight other people's demons, but in reality, they should be fighting their own. The only enemy we really have is ourselves. You can't get out of this situation without breaking the barriers that don't let you grow and develop. Each of us exists in very strict boundaries that society has created. We take these rules for granted and believe them to be true. But in doing so, we lose a lot of our energy. In addition, we fail to realize that we are fighting with ourselves, and unfortunately, the last enemy we will ever encounter is ourselves.
6. Look for the right path instead of the straight path.
Bear in mind that the right path may not always be straight. While we sometimes wish and hope that life is smooth sailing, it's not always as simple as a straight line. Consider this example: Imagine that you are on the 30th floor and you need to go down. The fastest way is to go through the window. But the wiser choice will be to take the elevator or the stairs.
Our attention is limited. This means that our minds only begin to notice the things that we need. This is what usually happens when we set a goal. Setting a goal is very much like setting the focus on a camera. If you set it wrong, you won't see what you really need.
8. If you want to prove something to someone, it means that you live for that person.
Searching for happiness? Stop trying to prove that you are right. Why attempt to change someone's opinion about something? Is their opinion more important than yours that you need to put in the effort to change it? If you live your life for yourself there is no point in trying to prove anything to anyone.
The people who can't stand being alone are the ones that hate themselves. They often think that being with a crowd will make them feel better. But a person who is mentally mature uses their alone time for self-development and to collect information they can later share with others. Communication is not only taking, but also giving something that might be interesting to other people.
10. Happiness is when what you WANT, CAN, and MUST do is the same thing.
People are generally torn in different directions. They feel that they must, but don't want to or they want to, but are unable to do so. But all a person truly needs to do is to develop themselves, everything else is extra. The things you want to do should be regulated by the things you must do, and what you can do is a force that moves the entire system. Focusing on these three directions will help you sort your goals and values properly.